To Meet Or Not To Meet

[cerisier111]

I have had a close correspondence with a Filipina for the past five years. For the first year, it was just a friendship but then we decided to meet in person. However, for the next three years, I had to care for an ailing parent and other issues prevented us from meeting. Finally, when all the obstacles were cleared, we planned to meet in the next two to four months.
Very recently, she told me she has been sexting and sex-camming four guys who she can also see on live-cam. (She is not a webcam girl). Three of these people are rich, successful guys who have proposed marriage to her; the foruth is only interested in computer sex with no committment. She has held off from meeting these other guys until she can meet me in person. She thinks this is normal behaviour and that everyone is doing it, including me. NOT TRUE! She very badly wants to have a baby before her biological clock runs out and she says that nothing is more important to her than a happy family life and that she will be a devoted wife. However, she is still having computer sex with these so-called, "friends: who could record any webcam images. What concerns me more is that she is addicted to this attention and would not give it up after marriage.
Should I accept that we are not right for eachother or should a future together still be considered? We have developed a very close bond in these past years.

[Steve.r]

Snog....?
Marry...?
Avoid...?



How is the weather in Kingston in Canada btw?

[Terpe]

I think you know the answer.

[Englishman2010]

Run a mile, there are millions of decent Filipina's who don't feel the need to work in that line of business. She will never change

[Steve.r]

They told you exactly the same on that other forum, where you posted the same question

[branno]

Bonjour cerisier, rather a nice name i must admit, not sure wen translated if its apple tree or cherry tree.. any how.. some years ago i had a friend in holland we worked with each other.. he was a good looking guy in his 30s and a good semi pro footballer too..
One weekend he met a lovely sweet dutch girl .. they dated for some time then she revealed to him that she was a window girl.. a prostitute.. this was some 12 yrs ago.. they are still this day happily married with two children...

[bornatbirth]

i predict a very happy and long relationship because you have found your life long partner

i wish you both all the best

[Gie]

I would say to meet her first and see where it leads...meeting her does not mean you have to marry her straight away!

[Steve.r]

i predict a very happy and long relationship because you have found your life long partner

i wish you both all the best

fantastic

[worthingmale]

erm sex camming online to guys,

run a million miles and then run some more

[Tawi2]

The weather in ontario isnt so bad,I speak to a mate there once or twice a week,he is going to Pinas at christmas,just got his ticket,it cost $1900 CD
I had a friend in Honkers,he married a GRO from a Wanchai girlybar(flip),she wanted to extend her visa and couldnt unless she married a brit,they married,she extended her visa,that was maybe 16 years ago,theres a whole lot more to the story,a genuine tangled web,but the upshot of the tale is they are still together living in scotland and have a daughter

[Sim11UK]

She will never change

Don't think that is neccessarily true?
I;m sure we had a similar situation on here, 2 or 3 years ago?
Some have gone on to marry bar girls etc. successfully? ( lots of ? marks here)
5 years, is quite a long time, you've got a bit of history?...It's down to you, if you can handle it? ...Probably you can't, or you wouldn't have posted?

[bornatbirth]

does anyone think this post is real

[Tawi2]

does anyone think this post is real

Theres nowt as queer as folks,kick around Pinas long enough and you hear tales far wilder told by characters who you would swear should be named Pinocchio Munchausen BUT the stories are often true,but in answer to your question no,I think the OP is on a leg-pull

[Steve.r]

does anyone think this post is real

I'm with you BaB,

He posted the same, but missed out the Filipina bit on another forum

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/show....php?p=3558037

[Sim11UK]

Well you have to give people the benefit of the doubt, to start with. Can't be suspicious of everyone?

Anything can happen in the Philippines & I've seen the strangest of sights.

[Tawi2]

Anything can happen in the Philippines & I've seen the strangest of sights.

You KNOW it

[cerisier111]

Thank you for all of your helpful comments. I was looking for a selection of opinions. The impression that my story seems like fiction is a little surprising to me. To the guy who saw my post on another site, you are quite the detective! (Weather in Kingston is crummy, at the moment, by the way!)

[Arthur Little]

Hmm ... 'to be - or NOT 2b?' - that IS the question! On balance, ONLY YOU can decide!

[bornatbirth]

why are you selling yourself short?, find yourself a nice filipina there are millions of them

btw have you had webcam sex with her too

[Dedworth]

OP's a wind up merchant best ignored

[imagine]

To Meet Or Not To Meet ,,,,,,,, that is the question ,,,,,,,

[Pete/London]

Another option is to marry and become a house husband

[Steve.r]

Another option is to marry and become a house husband

Yes, sit back with a bottle of Red Horse and just watch her work

[imagine]

you could be a kept man

[sars_notd_virus]

she told me she has been sexting and sex-camming four guys who she can also see on live-cam. (She is not a webcam girl). Three of these people are rich, successful guys who have proposed marriage to her; the foruth is only interested in computer sex with no committment. She has held off from meeting these other guys until she can meet me in person.

Should I accept that we are not right for eachother or should a future together still be considered? We have developed a very close bond in these past years.

Your girl is playing "Eeny, meeny, miny, moe" ...whos the bestest virtual sex mate of them all ...are u sure she's not doing it in real??

to meet or not to meet??

...meet her in real ,then you will know if u really have a ''close bond'' with each other...if everything goes well between the two of you and you are happy to ''still'' accept her then go for it ,...its your future together not ours.

[cerisier111]

I have had webcam sex with no one...but I am sure there are those here who would think that is fiction, too!

[cerisier111]

Don't know what that means...so it's best ignored.

[bornatbirth]

so what advice was you expecting from this forum?

[stevewool]

sexting what next, i must be past this