Hi all

[Win2Win]

Just pray for the following;






Iceberg dead ahead!!!

[gracia143]

abandon Ship!

[Win2Win]

What LIFEBOATS?

[gracia143]

Don't hand him the lifeboats, let him drown

[jhoiz]

you make me laugh guys! thank you

[aromulus]

Thanks kentish for the welcome. I didn't marry him for money or visa. What I felt and feel for him is real and strong that's why I'm hurting...Right now I am at the stage where I am putting a lot of things into consideration..and all your comments here is helping me.

I would tell him to face his responsabilities back home.

To leave the cruise ship, return to England with you and the baby, find a job, pay his debts, and re-start from scratch.

Having worked on cruise ships for a number of years I know only too well about the temptations and the risks involved.
But also I know about the loneliness, the hard work, the cheap drink and the peer pressure. Not an easy life.

Keith is right, if he cheated once, he will most probably do it again, unless you are together. Hence my suggestion for the both of you to return to the Uk.

[aromulus]

Just pray for the following;






Iceberg dead ahead!!!

And of course... Being a scouser, you are well into Icebergs...

Aye, aye, captain..........

[gracia143]

you make me laugh guys! thank you

No problemo Jhoiz, that was as easy as learning A, B and C but we're glad to be of service and that's the main reason why we are all here.

If life seem just too much to bear, come to the forum and just be mad or mental or bonkers. We all deserve a good laugh. Good evening!

[JoytotheWorld]

Hi Jhoiz,

I am new in this forum and I hope you don't mind me voicing out my opinon.

Distant relationship is really difficult. It is always best that the two of you communicate even when he is away, if not, then a lot of worries gets to your head. My own opinion only is if he says he was sorry and promised not to do it again, give him a chance, that is if you really love him. Tell him honestly what you are feeling and that you need his assurance on the relationship. I am married myself and probably would be extremely upset with my husband if he does such things. My husband decided to bring us here so we can be together and eliminates the anxiety of being apart. I know that some couples have to sacrifies being together for their future and one truly needs trust to go through it. In fact I knew a couple who had similar situation, and they were able to patch things up.

If he is most cooperative that is good and If not then just let go. I do not believe in wasting your time with someone who does not honour you or respect you.

The most important thing is to be strong for your own sake and your child.

Joy

[jhoiz]

Hence my suggestion for the both of you to return to the Uk

Problem is a bit more complicated than what it already is if we decide to go back to England because my visa was 4 months expired when I left UK. I'm not sure if I'll be able to go back to UK anymore actually but I'm not bothered for as long as my daughter have what she deserves.

[jhoiz]

No problemo Jhoiz, that was as easy as learning A, B and C but we're glad to be of service and that's the main reason why we are all here.

If life seem just too much to bear, come to the forum and just be mad or mental or bonkers. We all deserve a good laugh. Good evening!

Glad I found this site Good evening to you too

[jhoiz]

Hi Jhoiz,

I am new in this forum and I hope you don't mind me voicing out my opinon.

Joy

Keep talking to me Joy. I don't mind at all! In fact I value your opinion and really appreciate it.

This afternoon, I had lunch with my mum and next to our table was an old couple who were romantic to each other. They look like they're both on their
70's and it's just so nice to see couples like them. And just can't help wondering how my marriage would endup like.????

[eljean]

I think in marriage you give the last drop of chances to your wife/husband when they commit mistakes or dissapoint you...you share good and bad and while you can last you stay with him/her we always hear the words "in the sake of the child"but then it wasnt really but it was for the sake of the two of you if you can still both work things out...cheating is the most common reason for the breakage of marriage for the reason that you promise each other fidelity and lifetime of togetherness and not to share it with the other...

[Win2Win]

cheating is the most common reason for the breakage of marriage

I thought it was Death

[gracia143]

Both marriage and death ought to be welcome: the one promises happiness, doubtless the other assures it.
--MT on his Letter to Bowain

But through all these pain and confusing you are in now Jhoiz, you are never alone. You can always count on your family, your friends, and us here. And remember that God is good and he knows what's best for us. You may be hurting today and it might be good to just let time heal all wounds, but one day maybe, you can re-evaluate your feelings and decisions and decide if you can still give him another chance or just totally set yourself free or him. At the end of the day, it is still a matter of what you want or what you want for your child. I speak in behalf of the female genre--I DON'T BELIEVE IN SUFFERING IN SILENCE (anymore), stand up for what you believe and what you feel is right. Love yourself, that way, you can begin to learn to love others again(or love him again). Take care and have a nice day!

[JoytotheWorld]

Keep talking to me Joy. I don't mind at all! In fact I value your opinion and really appreciate it.

This afternoon, I had lunch with my mum and next to our table was an old couple who were romantic to each other. They look like they're both on their
70's and it's just so nice to see couples like them. And just can't help wondering how my marriage would endup like.????

I bet you Jhoiz with the years of this couples togetherness, they have encountered some difficulties at some points in their life, the best thing is they are still together. There is no definite guarantee in life when it comes to marriage, live each day and just keep that fire in your heart for each other burning, if you can still salvage it. It's not one way, both has to work hard for it. At the end of the day, do what you think will make you happy!

[gracia143]

I bet you Jhoiz with the years of this couples togetherness, they have encountered some difficulties at some points in their life, the best thing is they are still together. There is no definite guarantee in life when it comes to marriage, live each day and just keep that fire in your heart for each other burning, if you can still salvage it. It's not one way, both has to work hard for it. At the end of the day, do what you think will make you happy!

Their secret? "Yes Dear," said the old man.

[JoytotheWorld]

Their secret? "Yes Dear," said the old man.

I like that Gracia... .

[pennybarry]

Joiz,
You are much welcome to the forum.
I think you are the only one who could decide, We have our own limitations. It depends on your limitations. Been hurt before, but never turned back. Once I broke-up with a guy, I never turned back, no matter how it hurts . I wish you could make the right move. Be brave, you are young and beautiful, cheer-up ¬

[jhoiz]

Joiz,
You are much welcome to the forum.
I think you are the only one who could decide, We have our own limitations. It depends on your limitations. Been hurt before, but never turned back. Once I broke-up with a guy, I never turned back, no matter how it hurts . I wish you could make the right move. Be brave, you are young and beautiful, cheer-up ¬

That's so sweet. Thanks penny!