Meeting your Brit boyfriend for the first time.

[Bridget]

Meet your Brit boyfriend for the first time.
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1. Be organized - Make a plan for the entire holiday. Discuss with your boyfriend the places you wanted to show him. In my part I looked for the hotel and make the reservation. You do not need to pay in advance, just give them the guest s name, dates and what type of room you wanted to book. If it s in Manila I prefer to stay in Makati so that its closer to the major shopping mall, such as Ayala Center, and also not too far from the airport. Even he can make his reservation online but you can not always rely on what it shows in the internet. Of course you know your country more than he is, so you can always give your suggestions. On my boyfriend`s first visit here, I took him to the Baguio City, Tagaytay and The Pagsanjan Falls and Rizal House in Laguna and of course we stay most of the time here in my birthplace Manila. We always spend the first and the last two days here in Manila so that we have time to be with my family and make sure that he won t miss his flight.

2. Be considerate - How many hours are you going to spend with him or will you be with him during the entire holiday? Make sure that you are available during his stay. How would you imagine yourself flying over 12 hours or more and just find out that the person you want to see or be with is having other commitments or have other appointment? Be considerate, your man just been from a long journey and spent a fortune to come to see you, therefore your part is to give him your quality time and make his holiday the most memorable one. Decide how much time you need to stay in the hotel, I mean your boyfriend of course will be very excited to see more of the country and not just stay inside the hotel all day, except when the weather is bad but at least you must have another option ready in case there’s typhoon and you cant go anywhere. When it is raining hard or typhoon best go to the Bowling Alley in SM Malls.

3. Be resourceful- Places to go- have a plan where to go, which place you are going to show him, ask him his interest,… historical, entertainment, beach, nature and etc. Remember to get a map or travel guide books, you can buy one from the National bookstore. Educate yourself about the major tourist attractions of the Philippines so that you do not look like a stranger in your own country. Last July, we went to the surfing area in La Union, The Heritage Village in Vigan Ilocos Sur, Cebu City and a couple of days in Manila. We did it all in just 8 days. It was tiring but we had a great time together. By the way, if you want adventures I suggest go to The Pagsanjan Falls. It cost around 5000 pesos to rent the boat. Two boatmen will push you through the raging river to the waterfalls. It was fantastic and a great fun.

4. Be hospitable It is very important to know his food preference so that you will have your research which restaurant to go to. Ask his favorite foods, if he likes spicy, sweets and etc. If he wants to taste our pinoy specialty foods, best go to the Buffet Dinner in Glorietta Mall, its a restaurant that serves western, Japanese and Filipino buffet dinner which cost around 500 pesos per person or go to Barrio Fiesta Restaurants and enjoy the Filipino folk songs with the singing cooks and waitress. Unless you just wanted to feed him hamburgers and fried chicken everyday, no problem just go to Mc Do or Jollibee which I do not suggest because for me I rather let him taste our own special dishes, such as sinigang, kare kare, adobo, pinakbet, lechon and etc. But remember, he is your guest do not force him to eat the food he does not want to eat. I ve heard that most westerner prefers to have fish fillet than fish with still the head on it, some thinks that Krispy pata is disgusting, and also the dried fish and shrimp paste. In Baguio City we love to dine in The Sizzling Restaurant along the Session Rd. they serve Sizzling Boneless Bangus.

5. Be smart- about the transportation- if you want to save time just rent a car. Going around the city and or going to nearby provinces such as Laguna, Batangas or further North Luzon rent a car with a driver of course is a good idea. But if he likes to experience the journey by bus, jeep and tricycle it is cheaper of course. Some disadvantages, if you re going to Baguio City by bus, you’ve got to wait in the bus terminal and you will notice most people are looking at you because you have a foreigner with you. I feel that anytime the snatchers or bad guys may attack us. You know what I mean, bad elements are everywhere. It will be likely 2 hours travel time more than having your own car and feels like everyone in the coach are listening to your conversation. We hired car and driver that cost only 7000 pesos for 4 days which we saved time and it was more convenient. We able to see the sights from Manila to Ilocos Sur via Tarlac and Pangasinan and on our way back to Manila we drove via Nueva Ecija., which is very impossible to do it if we are just going to do it by bus. We enjoyed the trips as we can stop everywhere anytime if we like to take a photograph. Plus I feel more secured having 2 bodyguards, the driver and his helper with us. Be alert when you are walking around, advice him not put all his money, cards and important documents in one bag or best to leave it in the safety box in the hotel. Do not let your boyfriend get rip -off by the local vendors, some are taking advantage and overcharge foreigners, help him to deal with the local vendor when you need to bring him to the local shops for souvenirs. I suggest just go to The Kultura shop in SM Malls for souvenirs, about 10 percent dearer than small local shops but very good quality.

6.Be Honest- Ok number sex tips ooopps sorry number six... Sleeping arrangement- do not be hesitate to tell him if you are not happy to sleep in one bed , if its your first time to see him in person that is normal that you are afraid or nervous about it. If you think you can t avoid it, make sure you have a pack of condoms with you. It is not embarrassing to show him that you are just smart protecting yourself from any nasty diseases. I remember, I even asked my fiancé to show me his medical certificate to prove me that he is healthy. Remember it is different, no matter how long you’ve been talking to him through online or telephone, but you will only know his true personally the moment you see him in person. Do not afraid to say No if you are not yet ready for sex, remember that the main goal of his visit is to see you in person and have time together, meet your family and to know more each other. If you are not happy to have sex with him do not do it just to please him, because that you will be regret all your life if in case the relationships will not work and you lost your virginity.
But if you are ready for that thing and no problem about it, just do it to express your love and affection to your BF or future husband. As I said in one of my post, Sex is really just a mirror for us- a mirror that reflects the state of our mind, our heart and our soul. Sexual chemistry needs to exist between you and your partner in some form in order to distinguish your relationship from a friendship. After all what s the difference between how you feel toward your friends and how you feel toward your partner? The answer is; The Sexual, erotic connection between you. It binds you together in a very primal , very physical way that’ s difficult to experience with someone unless you make love with that person.

7. Be creative - Two weeks before his arrival, have a beauty rest, I m sure you do not want your man to see you with all the eye bugs and etc.. He flew from the other side of the world the first thing you want is to see his big smile when you finally meet in person, he so happy that he realize that you look more attractive than the photographs you’ve sent him or you look more gorgeous than what he always watch in the webcam. Make the effort to keep yourself fit and attractive, I m not saying you need to spend a fortune for the make over, remember that first impression last. Go to the beauty parlor, have a manicure and pedicure, foot spa, hot oil, but do not over do it. Remember, simplicity is beauty. I suggest have a welcome present for him, it does not need to be expensive gift, something that you think will be useful, light and handy that will not occupy most of the space of his luggage.

8. Be punctual -On the day of his arrival- make sure you know his flight number. Arrange with him your meeting point before he left UK. In the NAIA it is easy to see him. For example his surname begins with the letter A then he will go out on the left side exit. And you will have to wait for him outside in front of the signage ABCDE which is on the right side of the waiting area. Keep an eye of the monitor as sometimes the plane landed earlier that the estimated time. So make sure you will be at the airport at least 30 minutes before his estimated arrival time. Do not let him wait or else he will call another girl to pick him up joke only.

9. Getting a taxi from the NAIA- deal only with an authorized taxi operators, only those wearing ID s. There are two system in the airport, one you will pay first at the counter before leaving the airport just ask for the receipt and you do not need to pay the driver when you get to your final destination. The other system is you will pay to the driver but you must arrange first with the dispatcher the amount of the taxi fare. They have their list of the zone of destinations and the amount. Remember to bring enough cash just in case your visitor doesn’t have a peso notes with him, unless he wants to pay in dollars or pounds. If your hotel is just around the Makati area it cost less than 400 pesos only. But if he booked the hotel in advanced thru the internet, some hotels they have airport pick-up service. But if you have your own car just make sure to pick him up on time as you are not allowed to park at the arrival exit. Asked him the color of the clothes that he is going to wear so that it will be easy for you to recognize him from the waiting area. My fiancé told me the color of his baseball cap and the color of his luggage, bag and his top. Remember that you are going to see him in person for the first time, might look a bit different from the photographs or webcam.

10. Introducing your BF to your family- you must talk to your parents about the arrival of your foreigner boyfriend. In the first place how are you going away for a week holiday without the permission of your parents? If he is serious about you he will be happy to meet your family. I introduced my fiancé to my family and some close friends. I showed him where I studied and my parents` province. He enjoyed having a chat with my brothers and we played Bingo for fun.
You must tell your parents about your holiday, the place, the hotel and the flight number just in case you are going to another island. In case something unpleasant things happen then your parents know where you are. I even give my parents the contact number of the hotels and of course I always keep in touch with them every night to let know that everything is alright.


11. Travel light- About two luggage hahahaha. I know ladies as much as possible bring her whole wardrobe. When you planned your holiday, you will know which clothes and shoes to bring, for example if you are going to the beach make sure you have enough swimwear as you do not want to play around the water with your jogging pants or jeans of course ….which looks out of season… .It is really common sense if you are planning to go to Baguio City bring a pull over or a light cardigan with you. I normally bring enough clothes and a pair of walking shoes (rubber shoes) for whole day walking around street and parks, pair of smart shoes if we out for a dinner, a pair of slippers or pilaf plops in case were going for walk along the beach. Remember to bring some Imodium tablets with you. Do not forget to bring sunscreen, mosquito repellent and band-aid.

12. Make a diary. It is good to jut down some important events during the holiday. Keep all the boarding passes, hotel receipts, photographs, if the relationship works it will be your evidence to show to the British Embassy when you apply for the UK visa in the future. Take more photographs of you together as much as possible.

13. On the day before his departure I took my fiance to the Spa Center for a full body and head massage while I m having my facial massage. Give yourself a relaxing day after a very busy week of traveling and then back to your hotel and have a heart to heart talk.

14. On the last day, give your boyfriend a Thank You card for giving you the most memorable days of your life. Do not forget to bring loads of tissues or handkerchief with you when you take him to the airport.Huhuhuhu. This is the saddest moment, saying bye bye in the airport. You have to accept that in this kind of relationship most of the time you will be apart until the day you finally settled in the UK.

I hope this helps and hope you have a wonderful and the most memorable holidays of your life with the man you chose to love.
Best wishes to both of you.

[h0ney_c]

Thank you so much, Bridget for all your advices. I do appreciate everything that you have enlisted here. Maybe it's better for me to print this!!!

I'm really glad to have found this forum. You're one of the many members who make it possible for the forum to best serve its purpose.

Kudos to all of you!!!

[Bridget]

Thank you so much, Bridget for all your advices. I do appreciate everything that you have enlisted here. Maybe it's better for me to print this!!!

I'm really glad to have found this forum. You're one of the many members who make it possible for the forum to best serve its purpose.

Kudos to all of you!!!

It is my pleasure Honey_c and thanks for the nice words you said.

[somebody]

Wow great post deserves stickying imho im sure that will help many ladies as most of the advice is from us brits on this subject

[Bridget]

Wow great post deserves stickying imho im sure that will help many ladies as most of the advice is from us brits on this subject

Thanks Somebody.

[Bridget]

Boss Keith,
Thanks for your comment about my post.

[ginapeterb]

Bridget

What an excellent peice of written journalism - its nice to see a Filipina writing such good advice on the forum - well done.

Congratulations...from Pete

[Bridget]

Bridget

What an excellent peice of written journalism - its nice to see a Filipina writing such good advice on the forum - well done.

Congratulations...from Pete

Kuya Pete,
Thank you so much .. It made me feel good when somebody appreciate my work.
Actually one of the new member PM me last night and asked me to give her some advice. So I decided to put my answers to the forum for the benefit of all members who have same situation.

Im sure a lot of fellow filipinas here have more tips and advice to share aside from those points I gave.

[bigtombowski]

wow pretty amazing hehe

[Bridget]

Thanks Tom.
Did you get up on time? How`s the experiment?

[bigtombowski]

i tried the drinking before bed thing .... then ... i ended up talking to Gie until 3:30am! lol then we said goodbye, and then ... i went to bed, then ... i got up at 8:30 ....got a drink of water and went back to bed! hehehe

[Bridget]

Good boy...

[kimmi]

Well done sis Bridget, this post is really a great help to our friends here experiencing the first time..he he he

Cheers!

[Bridget]

Thanks Kimmi. Thats this forum all about sharing ideas and information.

[kimmi]

Very true..

Cheers to the Admin..This is really a great help..

[somebody]

Bridget im glad your post got the recognition it truely deserves.

Hopefully you will write many more informative posts as the ones from a fillpina eye view are thin on the ground, compared to us Brits writing and trying to help but reads so much better when it is a fillpina writing

[bigtombowski]

agreed
Tinuod

[somebody]

agreed
Tinuod

you multilinguist

[bigtombowski]

i'm a cunning linguist

[vbkelly]

great tips and advice sis bridget,im just wondering here if anybody when you first meet your foreign bf instead of going around in the philippines islands first thing to do is you must go to your family to introduce your bf instead,before i meet my husband i asked him what parts of philippines he wanted to go. what he said to me was his priority to going to PI is to meet me and my family...so we flew to bohol by the next day where my parent live to introduce him to my family and he stayed in my auntie's resort nearby my house he loved the place and beaches in bohol that why we don't go the other parts of PI

[bigtombowski]

hehe mar's mom will accompany her to cebu airport to pick me up hehe

so i'll be meeting the mama right off the plane! hehe

[IanB]

Any advice for men on their first meeting too? I'm scared and its many months away! But thanks for the post - I will point it out to Mae.

Ian

[bigtombowski]

hehehehe
i want to hear that too
coz i am less than 5 weeks away now! YIKES

[somebody]

Best thing i know now which i didn't at the time is go to a local phill shop and buy one of the small green alcohol bottles and get used to using it. Far cheaper than deodrant and keeps you fresh the alcohol evaropates so you don't small like a wino.
As you have read phills are obessed like all peeps around the equator about cleanliness and smelly fresh.

it also keeps you or at least feel cool.

Im sure the ladies on here or your respective missus can fill you in.

Also make sure you stand in the right waiting area unlike me at the airport its by first letter of family name not your first name

[bigtombowski]

hehehehehheeee

[kimmi]

when I met my fiance I am together with my dad..and we go home first because he wanted to meet my mom and family..I was really touched when he did that knowing right straight from the very long flight he wanted to pay respect to my parents, and for me its 1000000000000000000 pogi points..

[Bridget]

Hi guys,
Im glad that you happy with my post, thank you so much. Yes its a good idea to give some tips as well for the boyfriend when meeting his filipina dream for the first time. Dont worry getleman I will work on it.
Sorry, vbkelly that I didnt mention about introducing the boyfriend to the family,but that does not mean that I didnt introduce him to my family of course I did. Anyway I can always edit that post. And as I said, everyone is welcome to give their ideas and advice for our fellow filipinas whose just starting their relationship.
Thanks

[cinmickey28]

Good Post Bridget! That is very helpful!:

[Bridget]

Good Post Bridget! That is very helpful!:

Thanks Cinmickey. Have a safe journey to UK.

[cinmickey28]

Good Luck Sis Bridget! I will be praying to get ur visa very soon as well.